In one sense I agree with you and all the damage that can be done, particularly when one spouse decides what the other one feels and then justifies his or her next actions on that.
SSMguy makes the point that rather than doing that, his situation is one of "informed consent." Maybe less problematic than the "typical" (if one can call it that) affair.
When you have a clear "I am never going to have sex with you again" as a declaration, the options are pretty thin and no amount of "trying" will ever solve the impasse. Trying creates such a crutch by itself.
Do, or do not. There is no try.
Last sex: 04/06/1997 Last attempt: 11/11/1997 W Issues "No Means No" Declaration: 11/11/1997 W chooses to terminate sex 05/1998 I gained 60, then lost 85 pounds. Start running again (marathons)
