Good points, Dia. There's certainly some resentment, but it's resentment that she's picking away at me, not that she wants to "work on it" -- because I'm not sure she DOES want to "work on it." I think she wants validation for....something. Because her beau dumped her, and that was the escape.
With respect to your second comment. It's not a matter of "not trusting that the changes are real or lasting." There ARE no changes. She's making the same arguments, manifesting the same behaviors, making the same demands. So I'm not "irked" that she wants to work on the M and I'm not sure I do -- I'm irked that she doesn't want me to work ON MY LIFE just because SHE isn't getting ahead in her life.
I was never not-empathetic for WAW. I heard her and validated what she said. But as I've discussed in earlier threads, I came to the point that I wasn't going to let her define the agenda anymore.
