Give it to me straight!

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Bobbi,
I agree with Johns post entirely. You are one the sitchs I read where I also think, wow, you dont have any good things to say of this man and he has treated you badly (?) going back to age 16. I also understand that the heart wants what the heart wants and you dont sound done.

On your son.. at 6, things should be enjoyable? There shouldnt be pressure to achieve and be made to practice an extra curricular thing every night? Sounds a bit exacting and perhaps Dan should lay off him and let him be a child and have some fun !!?? Or is that just me, as I am quite a laid back lazy person! I understand he wants to instill good values of hard work in him.. but.. he is only 6!

As for pressing him details of the lawyer and he says he hasnt decided yet.. why dont yuo drop it? Never mention it. Dont ask him, dont mention it. I think OneDay did this, she just went ahead and quietly processed the D and had it sent to him. I'd suggest either doing that, or drop it yourself and carry on as a separated couple, if you are not done. But, you just keep doing more of the same.. reminding Dan of things he said/done, how he is letting you and the family down, how he wont work on the M and it just seems that these things arent working Bobbi.

As for cleaning out closets when he came over. What would he think if you had been doiong something else instead, something random, carefree and entirely unexpected and unbobbi-ish? Just a thought.

You sound very strong and together though and I admire you for that
Al xxx