Unless it is truly need to know info for Dan when he asks these questions, then no response is really necessary. IMO ..you are feeding in to the games that he wants to play. This ..being a dimwit dufus H and father from a distance and essentially in absentia is BS. Don't play along with it. Shut it down ..lights out on ole Danny boy. Let him try and find his way around in the dark. It is his choosing to be in the dark, so let him deal with it. Don't enable the behavior. I am not saying to be nasty but just let his distant voice trail off and fade. If he feels like the communinication is not what he would like it to be between himself and his family, then make him adjust what he is doing. Don't you be the one to make adjustments in what you are doing to make things better for him. He is not entitled to that luxury anymore. But if he wants it bad enough he will have to switch around what he is doing. Don't bend for him. Make him do all the lifting and the working. In due time we will know what he is constructing or destructing. It will be born out soon enough. You step back from his crap and let him do all the maneuvering ..whatever it might be.
be praying for ya.
T
what i said earlier (even though I did catch that you mentioned the the continued chitter chatter and the like between you and D had happened before I origianlly sent this to you) !
Send him off to the proverbial leper colony where he belongs BobbiJo. And strongly consider having him make arrangements to have his kid days anyplace else other than YOUR house. He is a toxin that needs to be expelled from you cuz you are not one of the kids so you have no need for him in his present toxic state. treat him like the hazardous waste that he presently is ..which is to say to find a far away area to put him at. And once you have done this then the boy may grow to resemble more of a man. God may reach him when he slinks to the depths that he will go once you cease fully and completely any enabling type stuff .. don't say it bit show it through solid consistent actions ....Sayanora (sp?)
And as always ..MEGA prayers for my sponsor family. ceaseless prayers!
