Thanks for that. I completely agree about the timeframe part. I think it can take six months just to build up to the point in the anger stage to verbalize all of the script MLC stuff. I think I need extra time, considering I begged, cried, pleaded, whined, etc... for 10 MONTHS, post bomb. Explode, apologize for creating the explosion, agree to do better, he returns (almost every weekend for awhile). Prior to all of that, but post bomb, he thought we would slowly get better again.
With that said, I understand the timing. I f'in hate it, but I understand it. It took a LONG time to get to that point in Dec/07. It will take a long time to get away from it.
I've since worked on me. I don't react the way I used to. I don't force him or guilt him into purchases. I succeed on my own again. I try not to try and control him or the situation. I don't "push."
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
