As for the online predator label, I don't know who you would be referring to so I don't know why you even included that reference along with that website of which i have no knowledge or affiliation - since you have knowledge of these things, I'll leave it up to everyone else to make their own conclusions.
To be clear..that wasn't directed at you. It didn't occur to me til later that you must have thought that, since we are online here.
Again, my point was that I DO have insight into what tristan's wife might be feeling, and further, what tristan might be feeling as my spouse can be very unstable. So I have elements of both sides. The OM in my situation was the online predator. So I have experience with predators. I think tristan's wife is being manipulated because she was very vulnerable at the time she met him. That's what they look for. I do not think she was looking for a toy, or someone new and exciting, or is playing games. I think she is genuinely confused, and has serious trauma issues to contend with while trying to figure out what to do about her marriage.
I rarely comment on anyone's sitches anymore as the whole tenor of this board changed in the last six months, and I have had to do a lot of healing away from here.
Anything else can be said can be on my thread, not his.
