On Sat I got a bunch of friends over to help build my deck in the backyard. W shows up while I was done grilling for everybody at night. Boys want to stay at the party, but W wants to leave. I thought, this is what you are walking away from....
Sun, I went sailing and had 3 texts, a voice mail and 2 missed calls by the time I checked my phone. W's mom was in the hospital and W asked me to get the boys at her brother's, so I did. She thanked me several times and called several times to update me on her mom's condition.
Just this afternoon, she calls me to tell me the boys got in trouble at school, so we discussed what to do about that, then she goes on and talks about her mom and other stuff also.
Am I pulling back enough? Should I just stay this course for a little and see how things go?
I am struggling with the idea of just asking her if she's seen the attorney or not (she said she made an appt, but I am pretty sure she either didn't have one or didn't go). And if she asks why I am pushing that, I can tell her that I've found out that she's spending quite a bit of time with this other guy, texting him a lot and that I am done with things if that continues. And that I don't care to know what they are or are not doing, I made a lot of effort over the past year and a half to reconnect and she made no effort whatsoever. I still want her to make the step to file if she's done, I'm not going to be the one to start that. But at the same time, I don't want it to continue like this either.
The other option I was debating is to slowly start splitting stuff up that we still share. Get her name off the phone bill, split the cellphone bill, and split the car insurance. Just to maintain the momentum of moving on.
