You hit the nail on the head there. You have to get your state of mind back for you. And, being the #1 snooper that I am, I will tell you to stop. If you feel like you need to snoop then you already know the answer. Knowing is not going to change things at this point, because your focus needs to be on you and the kids. She will soon realize her friends, the OM, and the life she is living is empty. Don't do any more damage at this point. She is not in her right mind. She is angry and resentfull and is acting out of that. Her actions will not make sense, so stop trying to make sense of them. Get some stability and sanity for you and the kids.
