Hey BBJ, sometimes when you are not in the thick of things it is easy to tell people to move NOW. Incidentally I agree...wholeheartedly. However, it is obvious to me that you are still IN. I (probably we) do not quite understand it with all the info. you have supplied regarding Dan. In all honesty even if he were to come back, what chance is there that he would come back a changed man? When I think back, I was in a similar situation emotionally. There is a limit to what we can accept. Some of us reached it and said screw this....others still hang on to the hope that someday the person we used to know as our spouse suddenly comes back to who they were. I am sorry to say this but I have never heard you say anything really good about Dan upto and including your days prior to marriage. Of all the folks that I follow / read, there is no doubt in my mind that you can do better than Dan. However, you are not at that point and as I always say: at the end of the day it is your decision.
