OK. It is time for me to make some goals. The ones I had originally made for R are outdated:
1. I think I need to convince W to go to MC again.
I am up in the air on other goals. I would like to make a goal with her lessening her reliance on OM. However, I have no idea what kind of goal I could state that would be measurable.
I checked the phone records and noticed she called OM and talked for 18 minutes shortly after asking for a hug leaving the driveway this morning. Is this normal behavior for someone having an affair? It is baffling to me how one can maintain this sort of lifestyle. This cycle does need to stop, I know. But I am not sure a 180 is the right way to deal. Is it?
Boundaries, they need to be set up in place to protect you as much they protect her.
This sounds very much like an open relationship and in the end that has to be the question you ask yourself, do you tolerate an open relationship, can you share her with someone else.
Regardless of her past history and the sexual assault she suffered at the hands of someone I'm assuming she trusted, She can't use that as a crutch for her actions and tell everyone including you that she is confused and doesn't know who to pick and continue to live life like this with you by her side. Currently it sounds very much that she uses this as a crutch and I could be wrong but it sounds like she is being enabled to do so.
