W can't break EA - not sure how to handle it

[Dia]

Hi, Tristan,

Devil's advocate here - are you sure that you setting goals for her is the best approach? Setting goals only for yourself is more controllable, no?

I know that many here are advocating a hardcore ultimatum regarding contact with OM, but here's a different approach. If you've decided not to press that issue at present, perhaps you should set a goal for yourself to not ask her, not check phone records etc. for a certain time period - 30 days, two weeks, etc. This may well be good for *you*, and if she's been feeling pressure to stop the contact, it might be driving her to pursue said contact.