Sounds like you did the the thing you wanted to do, and were willing to risk. So it must have been the right thing at the time.
Will it result in what you want? That depends on what you want? Can you make a short list of what you want, starting with occasional civil contact and working up the list to a restored relationship? Somewhere in the list is shared family holidays, but maybe not joint vacations. How far up the list are you willing to stop? How far up the list do you think he wants to go?
There is the potential for cake eating if it is all up to him.
You need to determine your limits along with your goals. How much less are you willing to settle for yourself? How much more risk are you willing to take? Great rewards require great risks but you must be prepared for all outcomes even if that means a slow journey on a long timeline. Despite some stories, MLCers aren't Pop Tarts. They don't just shoot out of the tunnel ready to serve.
