Young couple in need of help

[sumguy27]

Yes you are right. We are both immature. I guess thats hard to accept for me but what you said is true. We have always had this eye for an eye with our relationship. With the begining of our marriage I found out that she and her EX had contacted each other on the internet. I got mad and angry at her and decided I should get even. I contacted a ex who she doesn't like at all. She then said that I cheated on her which I didn't.

This year everything she thought was great. It wasn't for me at all. Because I always felt like I give and give with no return. I never said what I did was right. I do know now that I have given her way too much freedom.

She comes from a broken family. She knows what she went through during a divoce from her parents. I grew up with just my mom. I never knew my father and when I found out about him he had already passed away before I could have any contact with him.

Before my daugther and before any of this I know the real her. We have had great memories and history together also. She was such a caring person before and was never this person who she is. I blame her group of friends who yes we are all young and immature.

I guess I want to keep holding on and make things work because I know our issues can be fixed and not worth having my kids shuttle back in fourth without a home. I also fear of having only my happiness and no one to truely have a big enough heart to love my kids. I know she is a good mother but she is just not protraying it right now.

I keep telling everyone that I'm not going to give up without a fight. I have been going about it the wrong way so far. I have been doing things to cause more damage then good for her.

The week before I actually got her to come out to dinner with me. I took her to the Oceanaire which was very expensive. I thought that would be a good starting point. Yet after the dinner and bar we went to and came back to my apt she still said no.

Idk I'm lost and stressed and have been really depressed. I have lost focus with work and friends. I am thankful for the support of some of my friends who didn't pick and choose sides. I know I shouldn't care of what these bad apple friends are saying about me and giving her bad advice but its so hard not to care.