Hi Laurie, Thank you for replying! I like your response to the above quotes, though it sure seems like my comfort or lack of it is of little concern to him right now. Re: your last paragraph, I think you are correct. After talking to the L today, I learned that our legal options in Ohio are divorce or dissolution. He can file a D on his own but we both have to agree to a Dissolution, which is cheaper, takes less time. Of course I don't want either but I definitely don't want to go the divorce-lawsuit-court route. The L advised that we should NOT discuss "things" for a dissolut. until we run it by the Ls 1st. But she said he's free to tell me what he wants but don't agree to anything. So maybe I should not say that I agree to talk about house, dogs etc. but hear him out. L made a suggestion, which kind of goes against DB, but maybe would be good in my case? Tell H that I talked to a L & understand the options, but before we get Ls involved could we see a MC just as a mediator, not to save marriage, so I could get understanding of what happened? I let her know I was blindsided, think this is a mistake & still don't understand why he left. Do you think this is worth a try? I wish I had time to think about this, like he does all day(!)
It looks like things are against me, & L agreed. If I say no to furthering the D or Dissol. he can file for a D. The dissol. is lesser of 2 evils but I have to agree to the process. I really feel i'm in a corner. He is trying to rush me to a decision or force me into a lawsuit. I like your language above & will use the 1st quote. For the 2nd quote, I like the language but now that I've been advised not to do that, maybe just use the part about wanting our mtg to go better, yes we can meet etc. I hate that he's brought Ls into it, but am also worried about the legal stuff & money. This gets scary when everything we have is mixed together. If he really wanted to he could take everything. And I dont' know who I'm dealing w anymore. :-( L, thank you so much for replying today!! You don't know how much it means to hear from you right now. Am tryng to stay positive but having a hard time. Thanks for being there.
