Oh, and as far as a new R goes, eek, tread carefuly. You slowly come to find things you thought were "fixed" were just duct taped together. I tried just about the same time as the D was final to date a former old friend of nearly 20 years, after some rough waves at the end, it has come to a peaceful understanding of not being ready. Matter of fact we were jsut e-mailing today for the first time in a while.
On a side note and combining the two issues, I also think that not being in a visable relation to the kids helps them know you are there for them and who stayed strong for family as well.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11