I'm treading lightly b/c he has terrible mood swings and is quite volatile. I just never know what is going to set him off. He has some type of personality disorder (I think borderline personality disorder even though it is more commonly seen in women), so my anger has turned into compassion. He has a mental illness and is very good at covering it up with most people b/c he doesn't let anyone get too close to him. Watching him self-destruct is very painful.
I have compassion too for my H. I'm sure he has some issues going on too, but, I think it's even more important to take care of yourself and protecting yourself. You shouldn't in any way let him treat you like crap b/c he has a mental illness. If he's in a rage either he or you should leave the situation. And don't let him talk to you or treat you rudely. I think something that is lacking in many of our marriages is respect, and if you allow him to treat you badly then you lose that.
