H has already called twice today and emailed several times. Of course he's been polite each time. I haven't said much other than the yes or no answer to what he asks. I did talk to D5 twice now. She's doing well and is excited because she gets to see her 8-yr old cousin today. They get along well and she misses her.
I see how he's trying to use D5. I even told him that I see it and that it's unfair. At first he said, yes, I will use her. Then, he stumbled and said, but I'm using her not just for her but for us....I want us together.
What to do? In his last email, he said that he was glad that I talked to him last night. That he appreciated it. I had started an email back to him but I'm not sure if it's something I should send. He doesn't know that I'm aware of every single nasty text sent between him and OW just last week. You know, at the same time H claims to have been trying to figure out how to reconcile things with me, including going back to church. Oh yeah, and church.....the same church that D5 and I went to just a week ago (didn't go yesterday).
In my email response (not sent yet) I let him know what I'm aware of. I told him that words from him mean nothing to me anymore. He's even friends with OW, her sister & her brother on FB....and I mentioned that too. I mean, c'mon.
My sister thinks that I should let his family know that he's been telling me that he will harm himself. It's hard to reach out to them when he's there.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day