How do you wait this out?

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GG,

I had insomnia for close to a year before W dropped the bomb. Therapy didn't seem to work. I started taking Celexa and Ambien. It kept getting worse not better. After the W dropped the bomb, I started sleeping again. Not great sleep, but actually falling asleep and only getting up once. I have cut the medications I am taking in half. So a small amount of the ambien and a small amount of the celexa. It works. My goal obviously is not to take anything. My W is 3.5 months into a MLC. I see no signs of her slowing down-meaning wanting to work on the marriage. So I wake up at 3am every night thinking if I am still in this nightmare--I am.

But what helped a great deal is understanding where the insomina was coming from. For me, it was the pressure that my Wife was going to leave me if I didn't beat this insomnia thing. I finally found a therapist who helped me realize the source of the stress for not sleeping. It was a hard year, and she is seriously thinking about leaving me. So subconciously, I guess I knew something was wrong with our marriage. Learning to compartmentalize those thoughts is key. Control of your thoughts is the key to sleep. My mind still races constantly before I go to bed and when I wake up in the middle of the night. I am still in same bed with my wife. I do sleep better when I am away from her on the couch. But you learn over time to just stop the thoughts and concentrate on your breathing. I bought a sleep cd by roberta shapiro. The best investment I made. It does a great job of getting you to sleep. Also the Delta Sleep CD is good. I do better with someone talking me to sleep vs. sounds. Delta sleep is more meditation oriented. Now I am falling asleep to Bruce Springstein's "Devils& Dust"...Just have to find the right things that relax you and take your mind off of it.

Take it from one that has been fighting insomnia for over a year and a half. You can control it.