Tristan, I would add about the foot massage, I would often brush my w's hair in bed before we went to sleep. Sometimes it would lead to sex, but not always. I was fine with the times it didn't. For one thing, it felt good for her, and I love her, so why not do something unselfish for her? Also, it was time we were alone together completely apart from anything else. We would either have conversations or even just watch TV. We were together. Finally, for me it was gratifying because even if we didn't have sex afterwards, it was a half hour or so of time I had just touching her hair and her body. Two things which I miss very much now. The times it led to sex were fantastic, of course. But the times it didn't were still great because it was just time for us.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
