He doesn't need to go after other women. But he does need to do what makes him feel manly and confident. He can't hit her bullseye cause she keeps moving the dart board. He needs to meet his own standards.
Again, I used to fight Gucci on this but I see now that until you value yourself and see yourself as viable and able to thrive without your M, it is nearly impossible to pull this off. Flirting, dating, getting attention helps.
Aloof is about as manly as it gets from a woman's pov. Moreso than overtly sexual. And she is an insecure, juvenile woman right now so the rules are different than if were discussing a mature R.
You can't pull off aloof without really feeling it...
In my defense, Thinker has already offered his wife what I wanted (an expressed desire to put the M first and function as a team) so she and I differ in some ways. But overall, this sounds familliar.
