Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

I think dating might be weird while you live with her but can you at least get out and flirt? All of that rejection has surely eroded your confidence. I didn't agree with Gucci before but I do now. We are social and sexual creatures. You need to feel viable and desired. IMO.

Dating is not only weird, but out of the question for now. I am trying to hold her to a mutual "No External R's" rule. I can't simultaneously enforce this for her and openly date myself. So, as long as she continues to agree not to date...

Flirting, however, is a different question. Most of the social events I go to are family events where the other women are my friends wives, so flirting there is pretty much a non-starter, but that's what business trips are for...

There are also a few ex-girlfriends on my facebook page - purely for effect on my part - but which do bother my W.