I'm here, if you need another ear. I am also dealing with a spouse with an undiagnosed mental issue. He's only being treated for anxiety/depression and has been all over the board with meds....so on that note - I feel for you. It's tough to watch and super tough to deal with.
As far as dealing with someone with this issue....there is no quick fix and that alone, throws a whole other twist into the ordeal.
Breakaway knows her stuff, aliveandkicking I agree with too.