..the tentative oh-I-so-hope-she'll-let-me is just a turnoff. I want him to come up and lay a big smacker on me...you know, knock me off my feet.
Just a quick note to any women who are following along here...if you are seeing this, take a look at your own actions.
In my case, I can clearly see the tentativeness, but I can also see when/how it began. We had a rough period a couple of years ago with the birth of our 2nd child and the death of my W's father. This lead to a LONG period when most sexual advances on my part lead to an emotional rejection.
It was like trying to open an electrified door - sometimes the electricity is off and you can open it safely; more often than not it is off and you get get an unpleasant painful shock when you touch the knob. "Manhood" says the man should just suck it up and keep going at it with unfailing confidence, but after a couple of years of this sort of unpredictable rejection, well...you get a little tentative about reaching for the doorknob.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
