This would NEVER have worked for me. When I felt that the R was suffering, that everything was falling apart, the LAST thing I wanted was sex and physical contact. It felt crass and oblivious and self-centered on H's part given the reality of where we were at.
Women (if we are going to generalize here) want to feel emotionally secure and connected and then physically connected...
Unless you have full confidence in yourself (which no one posting their sitches on here has) I would not touch that one. Maybe that is what you miss Robx, you can't just tell a guy who is flailing to do this stuff. You are taking a valid position but applying it to a context that it just usually does not fit into.
Keep pushing the physical and the W feels more like an object, less understood and de-valued.
Oh, and women know what a foot rub offer means...
That is just my opinion, don't want to argue about it.
