I forgot to mention. He still maintains that he was never going to tell me about the kiss. He wanted to forget it happened and just move forward with us and our family. In a way he blames me for making it all real by pushing him for answers. He goes back and forth between acknowledging that it was an EA (or at least a dangerous friendship) and that it was nothing. I hope I am right in assuming that his breaking contact says that he wants to work things out. I think he does. I think he doesn't know how.
Me 34 H 37 Kids 7 & 4 Married 12yrs, together 17 Kiss/EA lasted 2 weeks. NC since 8/7