What is your current situation Orich, don't point me to a link to your thread because I can't read 20 pages to find out the current story. Where are you at right now? What is her real excuse for not loving you ever again? When I say "real excuse", I mean tell me what she says is the reason and what you believe to be the real reason because I'm sure the 2 of them are probably different.
In the end, the quickest way between point A to point B is a straight line.
Tell her you would like to have sex with her.
Tell her you think about it 90 seconds of every minute... literally.
Do you miss touching her, kissing her, looking at her, being physically intimate with her?
Tell her you miss those things and you would like to do those things with her. Tell her you know how she currently feels. If she isn't ready for physical intimacy/sex, offer her something else. Tell you would enjoy giving her a back massage or a full body massage with some massage oil, you enjoy touching her skin and she would probably enjoy a nice massage, it would relieve some of her stress and you would get alot of satisfaction from being able to touch her.
If she says something about her thinking that she may never love you like that again, tell her you understand but you would still enjoy giving her a massage and you won't expect her to fall in love with you if you give her a massage.
Thinking about this and everything else won't get you there.
You have to turn that thought into action.
You have to speak up.
Don't be an a$$, don't argue, don't get mad.
Here is something that will give you a leg up on all of this.
Expect to be rejected. Expect it.
Don't quit after the first time.
Ask her again, not within 5min. but try again the next day.
Tell you understand that it would only be physical and you can live with that.
Start with offering the foot rubs & back massages, ask her what she likes when she eventually gives in and says that she'll let you do it one time. When it does happen that she finally gives and says yes to the back massage or foot rub or full body massage, ask her what she likes? Is there a specific area in her upper back that is sore and needs some attention? How about her hips, or just above the small of her back? How about her calve muscles and her heals, all of these areas receive alot of stress and benefit from rubbing & massage, offer it to her. Don't expect sex in return, if she asks what you will get out of doing this for her, tell her you're doing it because you enjoy touching her skin.
Point A to Point B, straight line, don't lie, don't waver, be honest and direct to the point.
Pursuing is one thing, but when you're massaging her, giving her a backrub/footrub or having sex with her, you are receiving something out of this as well, you are receiving personal satisfaction as well, it's ok to be honest about this, you're a human being, lying about this is just lying and there is already enough of that in this world.
Don't whine if she rejects your offer, offer it to her again, the next day, a few days after that, the next week, each time you are rejected, just smile because you knew you were expecting the rejection and since you were expecting it, you can't take it personally.
Expect rejection and plan for how you will react accordingly, this will communicate that you are different from the previous person she knew. Just smile and say "OK, maybe another time".
When the rejection finally stops and you get a response like "I could use a foot rub or a back rub", be prepared, smile, get your skin lotion or massage oil and enjoy yourself.
Work on getting your foot in the door so to speak, don't succumb after the first rejection - don't pout and don't get angry - you're a man, a strong masculine man and you are prepared to handle this type of response without turning into a little kid because of it, expect the rejection at first and many more until she finally accepts your act of good service and enjoy it while she enjoys it.
And offer it again after she accepts the first time, make it something to look forward to, don't talk alot either during these times.
I find dimming the lights and lighting some candles while making sure the ambient room temperature during massages makes them more enjoyable.
