Is it time to start piecing?

[Hope4us]

Ok, Here's what I did.

Until W started talking with me, initiating conversations with me, I only talked to her about the kids or finances or household stuff (groceries, etc).

When I started to notice her warming some, I didn't immediately start pursuing even in the smallest way. Respond to her when she initiates, but for a while, let her drive the ship.

Then, slowly, ever so slowly, start to initiate yourself. Make them short and sweet. Almost like drive by IM's etc. Whatever you do, don't push it. But take your clues from her. If she's in a talkative mood, go a little further. If she isn't, drop a "I can tell you're busy, I'll let you go" on her and get the F out of the conversation.

Always, always be the first to end things. Even if the convo is going great, make it seem like you've got places to go and people to see.

If you sense a pull back, then pull back yourself. I did probably a dozen mini-LRT's on my W. Heck, did one this past week. And it only took her a couple of hours to reel me back in. So if you sense she's getting a little uncomfortable with all the interaction, pull back.

And expect pull backs from her. My W has had at least 3 major pull backs and more minor ones than I can count. Seems like it's part of the process. They start getting comfortable and then realize, "Hey, this can't happen, I don't like H and want a D". So they pull back. But that all seems to be part of the process they have to go through.

Again, let her drive the ship. And then monitor the results.

But whatever you do, DO NOT PUSH IT. I can only guess where we'd be right now if I hadn't got so darn giddy when I'd sense her moving towards me and pushed things and then there'd be a pull back.

And NO R TALKS. There'll be a time for those, but now isn't it!

Hope this helps.