THE TABLES TURN

[PainX2]

Okay, here is something troubling me.

If I were originally the one to walk away and have an affair, I would be responsible for assuring my wife that the affair is over.

I can't do that from darkness. I still work at the same place as the woman though I don't interact with her at all.

I would gladly find another job to show my commitment if the situation were different but it was so hard to find work these days. That is what led to the separation in the first place.

[davidswife]

Understand you're troubled.

Dark, dark, dark, dark, dark.

[PainX2]

Okay, here is something troubling me.

If I were originally the one to walk away and have an affair, I would be responsible for assuring my wife that the affair is over.

Somehow this still must be done correct?

I am dark sheesh. Just still trying to work that other stuff through too.

[davidswife]

[quote=PainX2]Okay, here is something troubling me.

If I were originally the one to walk away and have an affair, I would be responsible for assuring my wife that the affair is over.

X2,

Yes, this will eventually be addressed, now is NOT the time.

Patience, patience.

Can we talk about a new name for you?? I just can't call you "Pain".

Stacy

[PainX2]

Call me X if you wish

just curious, can you and your wife currently have a civilized conversation about your marriage and transgressions on both sides? or is it only yelling and fighting?

[PainX2]

Hi Wren!

WE had a few discussions, she came to visit me when she found out and we rented a hotel for 2 nights and talked. But right now any kind of talking leads to her pain and inevitably how working it out is pointless.

We tried having dates on the computer but it was only nice one time, when I got a phone call from my friend on the other line, wife lost composure and thought It must be OW.

with you guys separated by half the country, and with her so angry and suspicious/paranoid of your actions, how can you be sure that she is no longer seeing OM? if she was truly ready to work on reconciliation as you say, i would think that she would be a little more leniant of your actions...

[PainX2]

She left the filthy Cossack on the east coast.
She actually said part of her decision to move was based on cutting him out to focus on me and us.

Part of her pulling back has to do with how guilty she feels for hurting me, not just what I did to her.

you guys were together in PA, then she started seeing OM somewhere on east coast, and then she moved to LA to patch things up with you?!? i've got to be missing something...

sorry, i see now from first post in thread link to previous thread...will read that now...