Still also wondering what to do with W in how she is acting right now (crying, acting very depressed, etc). I know the usual DB approach is to back off, let her go it alone. I just think I am only letting her continue to resent me more if I don't do something to show I empathize with what she is going through.
Loving detachment. Be there to listen to her and validate her feelings - not to accept or condone her decision. But she has to understand this is HER decision and that if she wants this path, she's got to put on her big girl panties.
If she cannot understand the reality of the consequences of her choice, you reaching out to her won't change that. It likely will only make it easier for her to continue on her current path b/c, in her mind, she isn't really losing you.
