I wake up this morning, the first thing my W says to me is that I am going out next Saturday and the family function we have once a year this sunday that you always complained about-I don't want you there.
I will admit, I have complained about it in the past. It is an hour mass in italian, then we follow the virgin mary statue around the the block in front of the church, then a raffle for 3 hours in the church basement. This is usually on the last day before the kids go back to school and it ususally takes up most of the day...So I guess I deserved her saying that. I did respond later that day...I said did I do something to make you mad today..Because the first thing you said to me was about me not going to the church function..She responds no..I said I am sorry for taking that for granted all these years. I just walked away after that. I then made a nice dinner for everyone with one of my sons helping. She makes a point to tell the kids at dinner that I am not going next sunday. I just said can we change the subject...I just said kids it is never too late to change and learn new things....She said yes it is. I knew exactly what she meant.
That's okay though...
If you don't enjoy it, find something else to do. Don't make it about you aren't invited, make it about you have something else to do that day....
Would you rather be there and miserable ?
Or out doing something that you DO enjoy ?
Sometimes MLC'ers need to take the steps to realize that THEY are the ones miserable.
I have learned that not all situations in which YOU assume they are happy, that they are....
Most of the time, when they appear the happiest, they are the most miserable.
And if YOU decide not to go, then the perspective has changed considerably...
Originally Posted By: d1adsl5a
Then she has the nerve to ask me later, what's wrong..I of course bit my tounge and just said nothing..That is the question I hate the most, what is wrong. What do you think is wrong? You have destroyed my life, my kids life, my parents life, your parents life. But I digress..
I know, tomorrow will be a better day.
Projection by her.....There has to be something wrong with you , cause she is perfect....Don't buy it man.
She really hasn't destroyed your life, She is really making it better....just takes time to see that....
Patience, Dignity, Honor are the road maps to that ...
