First Piecing Thread

[InLikeFlynn]

Here's a idea.....each day sign off each email/text with one of the following. When she ask's what it means tell her but keep doing it even if she asks you to stop. 10 days of I Love You, maybe she will get motivated to respond in kind!!


1.Mandarin Chinese - wo ai ni
2.English - I love you
3.Spanish - Te quiero
4.Russian - Ya lublu tebya
5.French - Je t'aime
6.Hindi/Urdu - May thumhe pyaar kartha hoo
7.Arabic - ana b'hebbek
8.Portuguese - Eu amo-te
9.Bengali - Aami tomaake bhaalo baashi
10.Japanese - Kimi o ai shiteru

Flynn

[Hope4us]

Hey guys. Back from vacation and just have a couple minutes while trying to get caught up at work and wanted to share a couple things.

Of course, vacation was great. Had a blast. W totally engaged. W talking about our future more and more, intimacy was there, all in all, good trip. Had one trigger that threw me for a loop for an evening and part of the next morning, but got thru it.

Got home Saturday evening and had a really nice evening with W and S21. S17 was out doing his thing as soon as we got home.

Here's my question of the day. The whole drive home I kept perodically sending W flirty TM's. She was sitting in the back because our car is smaller and S17 is a big boy and needs the space, so he was sitting in front with me. Anyway, I kept sending the TM's and she would respond and it was just a lot of fun. So we have our nice evening when we get home and go to bed and ML.

When we were done, I looked at W and said "I love you" and in a very soft voice she said "I love you too" with a great big smile on her face. I was shocked. So much so that I wasn't sure I'd heard her correctly so I said "could you speak into my good ear, I'm not sure I heard you correctly" (all in a joking manner) and she replied "I didn't say anything". So we just laid there with me stroking her face and hair, looking at each other and I didn't know what to say. We went to sleep shortly after.

So the question is, WTF? Why would she say that to me and then deny she said it? Did she catch herself revealing what I KNOW she feels and she doesn't want to deal with it or deal with what she thinks will come if she repeats it to me again?

I'm just confused. I guess I thought when she finally would bring herself to let go and say that to me, that she'd really let go and we could move forward and REALLY get past this stuff.

Any opinions?

[whatdidido]

If I had waited a long time to feel "natural" in saying "I love you" to my H, and then finally said it, I would want it to be naturally taken....My guess is that she was ticked that you made it a big deal instead of natural. She likes you strong, confident, sexy...not needy, or condescending.....

I know you didn't mean anything other than being loving, but she may have felt another way than you meant her to feel.

[Concerned_Listener]

H4U,
What train are you trying to catch? Do you remember the title of the Billy Joel song? LEAVE A TENDER MOMENT ALONE.

You're overanalyzing.

CL

[Puppy Dog Tails]

H4U,

What CL and WDID said. ^

x 2.

Puppy

P.S. Congrats, you lucky bastard!

[Kalni]

Here's a idea.....each day sign off each email/text with one of the following. When she ask's what it means tell her but keep doing it even if she asks you to stop. 10 days of I Love You, maybe she will get motivated to respond in kind!!


1.Mandarin Chinese - wo ai ni
2.English - I love you
3.Spanish - Te quiero
4.Russian - Ya lublu tebya
5.French - Je t'aime
6.Hindi/Urdu - May thumhe pyaar kartha hoo
7.Arabic - ana b'hebbek
8.Portuguese - Eu amo-te
9.Bengali - Aami tomaake bhaalo baashi
10.Japanese - Kimi o ai shiteru

Flynn

A little late here:
Greek :S'agapo

[Hope4us]

H4U,

What CL and WDID said. ^

x 2.

Puppy

P.S. Congrats, you lucky bastard!

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get it. Quit complaining. But when you've been at this so long and it's the 4th quarter, I just want the game to be over and be able to settle in for the rest of the schedule (our lives).

I know I'm a typical guy and just want it fixed and lets move on, but I know that's not how most women work. And I know this is what I signed up for when I decided to try to save our marriage, but I just want to feel NORMAL again.

[kat727]

Just remember that it is going to still take regular maintenance, using the DB skills that you have learned for the rest of your lives. She is getting there but you need to remember what got you this far. These changes need to stick and be tweaked as time goes on. I am incredibly happy for you!

kat

[Hope4us]

Thanks Kat. You've been with me from the beginning and I appreciate your support more than you'll know.

Thanks for the reminder. It helps slow me down when that impatience starts creeping back in.

[Hope4us]

Interesting night last night.

W and I went to "our" bar/grill and had dinner and some drinks. Had a really good time. W had a little too much to drink and when we went to bed I gave her a kiss goodnight and told her I loved her and she closed her eyes really tight and shook her head no.

I asked her what that was about and she said "I didn't do anything". So I just kissed her again and we snuggled and went to sleep.

So....Sounds like to me she's still punishing herself. Also seems to me she doesn't think she deserves my love, or can't understand how I can still love her.

Might be reading it wrong, but that's what it seemed like to me.

Comments?