Dawn - again thanks for your advice. You are correct and I'll keep playing it like that.
With regards to speaking to her family her father has been involved but he has been stating complete crap. For my own self respect I needed to explain that he couldn't keep blaming me for my wifes problems. Maybe I didn't need too but I felt I needed too.
As for my wife - she just asked me to sign a withdrawl for $600 to which I said I would think about it and to give me some time. She then ripped up the withdrawl and attacked me for being controlling. Anyway such is life.
In some ways I'm enjoying finding my backbone. It is very much like although she is in a crisis I am changing as well. My changes though imo are positive and involve me being stronger whereas she seems more & more like a wreck.
