My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

I so hope you're right. I was really doing well as far as healing and overcoming, and then I found out about all of this and it was quite a setback. Just trying to figure out a way to deal, without a whole lot of support.

And thanks for the book suggestion. Not sure I've ever been in a healthy relationship, nor did I grow up observing any. I'm comforted to know that my friend has not only had years of therapy (as have I), but is also professionally an expert in cognitive behavioral therapy. While this certainly does not guarantee that either of us can apply any of this stuff to our own lives, we are both quite conscious of pitfalls and thinking errors, and have been able to point them out--gently--to each other when they come up. I will definitely check out that book.