Enjoy your days away, you probably need a break from all the drama your H is causing. Think what you want to do and then do it.
I agree about friendship it's a two way thing, not what we probably have now with our H, which is just about us rolling over and doing what they want. Having said that if you decide you want a friendship at the beginning you may have to be a bit accommodating just so that he learns to trust that by friendship that's what you actually mean rather than it being a plot to get him back.
Yes a friend would just ask, it's not fair to expect the kids to act as go between or to use them a means of finding out about your movements. Consider setting this as a boundary, that if he wants to know something about you he asks directly. this is probably opposite to what Sanderika would do, but it's something to consider. Would this be a 180 for you? You need to decide how important this boundary will be, if you can are happy for him to use the kids in this way then let it go.
One the friendship is re established who knows what the next step will be.
Of course you may decide that you don't want that and want to move towards D. In which case good luck, it may now be time to consult a L and see where you stand financially at least, always best to know the facts about that.
