#65 finally!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Dawn of Hope]

Maria, I am so sorry to hear all of this horrible stuff that is coming to light. On the file you just read...UGH! Made me feel sick too.

how they overcame a pregnancy

I am not sure I understand this part...was she pregnant and had an abortion? Miscarriage? What does it mean to "overcome" a pregnancy?

I lied and said I will be away coming back on the 6-7 because I was counting he will at least keep them for 15 days.

Maria, I do so feel for you, this is all so hard, I know. And you have every right to feel that he ought to take a certain amount of responsibility for his own children. I hesitate to say anything, but I feel that I must...I think that if you start lying, you are stooping to his level. You are better than that, I know you are.

What is the difference in character between the LBS and the MLCer? Integrity. MLCers lie, cheat, sometimes steal, sometimes get other people (even their own children) to help them hide their sins, and weasel out of their responsibilities. We LBS's (most of us, anyway, I think) don't do any of those things, and that is why we can hold our heads up without shame, no matter what the MLCer does. If we hold tight to our integrity, none of the mud that the angry MLCer tries to throw at us will stick.

It is okay for you to be angry (for a while anyway), to cry, to ask questions; it is okay to do what's necessary to protect yourself and your kids; nobody is saying otherwise. Just don't compromise your better self in the process. Don't let him pull you down into his muck--shine with your integrity intact instead. Goddesses, even vengeful ones, defeat their adversaries without stooping to using the underhanded tactics of those adversaries. When he complains about your lack of accommodation of his ridiculous expectations, all you have to do is just keep saying, "I'm sorry, but I won't be available to help you with that." You don't have to tell him why or make excuses. If he asks, you just say, "I just won't be available." Just keep repeating it until he gets tired of whining and stops asking.

I hope you aren't offended; I just don't want to see anything bad happen to you that could have been prevented.

Maria, I hope you are able to get through this horrible part--of all of his offenses coming to light, and your having to deal with them emotionally and in practical terms--as quickly as possible. It is so hard, but at least we are here for you. I am praying for you and your family.

Peace and blessings,
Dawn