Help - Husband in MLC

[Dawn of Hope]

Oz,
Is the place a good fit for you and your DD? If so, go ahead. Don't be mean about it, but let him deal with his own stuff.

I told my H when he moved out that he was free to leave whatever he wanted here (he claimed that the apartment he was moving to was quite small, and truthfully this house could hold two or three times as much as it does). Now I kinda wish I hadn't done that, because there's still so much of his junk here pulling on my energy, even though I have shuffled things around so that I don't have to look at it much. But because I said that to him, I don't feel right about getting rid of it, and we haven't communicated at all in three months, so it's not like I want to call him up and tell him to come get his stuff.

I haven't bought the DR book yet, should I get that one and read it as well. I have read DB and re-read it.

Definitely get DR; it is a little more focused for those of us whose M's are on life support. You can probably get it from the library if you prefer, and buy it if you think it would be helpful (I'm a big fan of the library! I would go broke if I were still buying all of my books--I read [or listen to] about one book a day). Oh, wait, I don't know what Australia has in the way of libraries...I happen to live in an area with a very good library system, and can easily get almost any book that's published, but maybe you don't have that option.

One more thought, should stop thinking. Should I tell him that I enjoyed our time Friday night and Saturday together, or not? - is that coming across as too needy and clingy? - probably.

I know I probably need a good clip across the ears to wake me up.

Don't tell him you enjoyed your time together over the weekend unless he brings it up. You can--and should--mention such a thing casually at the time it is happening, but bringing it up again later seems clingy.

Take care of yourself.

Peace,
Dawn