K4D Rising #4

[K4D]

Today was a most wonderful day. I spent the whole day with W and kids after church. We went shopping for school clothes. We then went and got starbucks together. Then we did more shopping. Then W suggested we eat dinner together. Then we did more shopping. We got along so well. It was just like old times. We talked about all kinds of things. At one point D11 asks W if we can all go to Destin Florida together sometime. W said maybe. D11 looked at me and said she had to ask because she had already asked me.

W and I did not argue once. I zipped my lips the entire day on anything that could have been bad. We were so nice to each other and W took a genuine interest in wanting to help me out and look for things for me also. We worked together as a team and did well. I could not have asked for things to go better considering last weekend. I stuck to my positive outlook. Although she did talk from time to time about her male friends, I just took it in stride and was never negative. We talked about my friends and about what each of us do during our off weeks. She has quite the life. She goes shooting on Mondays, boating on Tuesdays, plays poker on Wednesdays and Saturdays. Goes to a movie once a week with her female friend and does belly dancing on Thursdays as well as eats dinner one night a week with her family. She has a lot going on. We talked about how we each save money and agreed on a lot of things with the kids. We joked together and had great conversations. It really was like it used to be. We activated our kids cell phones again by finding our old ones since they lost the current ones. We talked about getting a dog together and splitting time with it basically it going to whoevers house the kids are at each week. We talked about work together and my dad coming and adjusting the schedule for the kids while he is here and church and many things. At times I was a little sad because things were just like they used to be. But I would quickly put it out of my mind. At the end of the night, she thanked me.

It was really great. I had prayed and prayed for a good day today and it was. Not once did we argue or anything negative with each other. It left me feeling like maybe there is some hope in the future if I can keep on the right track with her. True she talked about trips with her and the kids without me. That is fine. The positive is we were able to spend the whole day together getting along again.

It was so nice. I did what worked 2 days in a row now. I will keep on doing it. I am seeing positive results all of a sudden by changing my approaches with W. I did mention my AA meetings and she knows I am taking things seriously. This was truly the best day we have had together in almost a year.

25, I am glad you and your H were able to go on a M retreat. I hope it really brought you 2 closer to each other.

BTW, I am still not fooling myself. One good weekend doesn't equal anywhere near a reconciliation. I expect setbacks. But this weekend was really a step in the right direction and I did not put my foot in my mouth and it really seemed like she felt like she could trust me and cared about me even if only in a coparent way. It was more than we have seen in a very very long time. I know my work is still cut out for me. Thank God last weekend didn't kill it for me.

I will post as I have updates.

Kevin