Dan texted me this morning to ask where church was. He must have gone there to meet us and we weren't there. Church had a campout and the service was outdoors on someone's farm. But it was raining. So I didn't take the kids. Oops!
Anyway he showed up at the house (it was a Dan day) and hung out with the kids for about an hour. I was working on cleaning out closets for back-to-school. Then he took them for lunch and they were gone a few hours. Came back and got changed to go swimming but the Y pool was closed so they came back home disappointed. Changed into play clothes and went out with him while I kept going on my project. Nathan made a big deal about how organized his closet was. I love him!
I went to karate and did my practice, then Dan showed up with the kids for Nathan's practice. It was terrible, he has been fussing about practicing again and it showed. His teacher loves him, you can tell, but she told him if he didn't agree to practice with me every day this week, he couldn't test for the next graduation in two weeks.
Dan got irate again and I really don't blame him because Nathan has a really bad attitude about practicing and it is such a struggle for me in particular as I am generally the one trying to get him to practice.
We got home and Nathan wanted to ride his bike. Dan told him to ride and figure out why he didn't like to practice and tell him after he was done. He came back and said he didn't like to practice b/c it was "Too much work".
That just set Dan off. He made Nathan go in the back yard and look at his playset and see what "Hard work" could accomplish (Dan is building the playset).
After Nathan left Dan was fuming to me about what a bunch of crap it was, he would have accepted a different reason to quit karate but not 'too much work'. I couldn't/wouldn't let that go. I said, "You know, you are the one who said that trying to fix our marriage was just too much work".
He sputtered and then said "Well that is different, that takes two people and his karate is just up to him". I said, "Yes, it takes two people and I was willing to work." Then I let it drop and went out to check on my flower beds. But I was so aggravated because he is the one giving up on us b/c it is too much work yet he won't tolerate the identical attitude in his son. Which is more important, karate or a marriage? Geez
When they were heading for lunch (kids out to the car already) I asked him the name of his firm. Figured I would then be able to share it with my own attorney when the time came. He told me their name and then said he didn't really think that Sunday afternoon with the kids was a good time to discuss the situation.
I just said that I didn't really want to discuss anything I just would like to be forewarned before someone shows up at my door.
He said that he did NOT file, that he already told me before he met with them that he was not going there to file, just for advice. He said "I don't know what i am doing yet".
Oh well. It was actually a very nice day all in all. I got a ton of organizing done while he had the kids all day. And the previous day I got the remainder of my back to school shopping done, so I am in good shape!
