It sounds like you have some great events planned to keep you busy. I could so use a Vegas trip. You and your fellow Greek Gods should have some great time to reconnect. Very fun. I agree with other's that you should not contact her. If you have any friends in common, or ways for her to see the new you without you contacting her, that would be great. One thing I have learned, is that what feels like ages to me is never long enough to give my H the space he needs. It is at times so incredibly difficult to not contact that I am litteraly crawling out of my skin. Of course we have a kid together so there is daily contact, but it's all business. In my case, it's trying not to do a temperature check and see how things are, what he is thinking, whether he has set up IC, etc etc. It is just in general very difficult to have someone else holding your future in their grasp and having no control over which way it goes. I think that's why you read so much here that you have to focus on you and making yourself a better person regardless what your spouse is doing. Easier said than done in my opinion.
