Are Affairs Ever an Option?

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quote=ssmguy] In many cases, they don't care to know, because, in a sense, they've already decided that sex isn't important.[/quote]

I dont think that its fair to say this, it seems like an overgeneralization to justify your point ssmguy. My H decided that I didnt love him anymore, and I wouldnt mind that he had an A. Which was absolutely not true. It broke my heart and had a HUGE negative impact on my life. As I believe A's ALWAYS do. Everyone involved gets hurt. There are ways to change your life.

I think that before a HD spouse throws themselves into their "solutions" to the problem, they need to carefully, and honestly examine why their LD spouse has become LD. There were several reasons that my M became SS. And NONE of them justified an A!

If its worth staying M, its worth repairing your relationship.