I would appreciate if you checked out my thread because it sounds painfully similar to mine, minus the kid involved (we just have the furry variety). He was engaging in emotional affairs with other woman, while I was always depressed, not fun and yelling. I have been working on changing that for the last year, but the one thing he says I still do way too much of is questioning and pressuring him. He says that the more I "push", the further away he goes. I really need help on not engaging that. He also says he only sees the "broken down" me. That's because when I see him, I get upset and cry because I wish we could just be ok. I love him so much. Obviously, I know what I have to do, I just don't know HOW to do it.
Hidy Ho So I played in a charity kick ball event today. H was also playing but with his work crew....my team was made up my good buddies and their good buddies. We get ejected! Long story short, we had a DOCTOR on our team. He threw a ball, not hard at a girl running to first. She ducked, it hit her in the shoulder and side of her face. But she was fine. Some folks didn't like it...the hit to the face, but she ducked, he wasn't aiming for her face. As the game progresses, the doctor and some other people on the other team are talking mess. So later, some girl grabs my teammates shirt, he's trying to get her off of him...the dumb girls boyfriend tries to punch my team mate....didn't end well for the dumb girls really dumb boyfriend. I was team captain, I told them to eject us all....we went and got pizza..... Man, I had a ball today.
H came too for pizza with his work crew/team. I was happy about that....it is a big step to have H wanting me to hang out with work folk since ex OW still works there.
Turns out she put in her notice on Friday...she should be gone in a couple of weeks or so. Makes me happy...but I guess it doesn't matter much because contact with them is 0 outside of work. But better she leave all together I think.
So I went and took things a step further....H had to leave as bills were coming out. (He has to work very early and it was getting late, so bed was calling.) I went ahead and picked up the tab for his coworkers who showed up....I REALLY want to be Homecoming Queen and buy as many friends as possible!
LOL!
My team got ejected for fighting! It was a charity event for troops in Iraq! Seriously....it's not funny but yet I continue to laugh.
Stronger... LOL!!! I was laughing my head off reading the recap! I like your style. I played on the MOM's soccer team. I got an award at the end of the season. MOST yellow cards! I can appreciate the ejection!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
So, XOW did put in her notice. Her last day is the 27th. H had S the next weekend coming up but it's her birthday weekend anyways and I'm sure Fiance would be here or she'd be back in her hometown with Fiance. But my point is this....I'm stressing myself out about the going away party. I know H for some reason will probably want to go. I know they did talk last night....which I knew was probably going to happen again sooner or later. (They haven't talked out side of work in just about three weeks. So, I can deal with it with pretty much no angst, just an eye roll.) I'm not quite in my head about it, demonstrating much better mind/self control over these things now-a-days but it still irks me. Hell, she may not even have one....and H may not even want or care to go. So I'm basically possibly telling the farmer to shove the jack up his a$$.....(guy breaks down...flat tire...remembers a farm house one mile back...goes that way with intention of asking to borrow a jack....starts to think 'what if he won't lend me his jack'....starts to get mad that the farmer won't lend him the jack....gets to the door...knocks....farmer answers...man says "Just shove that jack up your a$$ buddy!"...walks away without even asking because he worked himself into a tizzy)
So basically, I'm giving myself a nutty. That's good. Healthy, don't you think? Oy vey.
I KNOW!!!! WTH is wrong with me? I can't quite put my finger on where my hiccup is....I think it maybe because when I asked him to cut off contact outside of work his answer was "I don't want anyone to tell me what to do anymore. I'm done listening to people. I'll talk to who I want to talk to. And she's leaving anyways...this will all be over sooner than later 100% no matter what, so just let it go now." Or something to that effect. While I sort of see his point, I don't. If it's all going to end 100% one way or another, end it now, right?
I'm looking for one of my 2X4's....the one that says "Use this for people who are right"......Hmmm....Oh, here it is....up my a$$..... I hate me right now.
