Agh! He's detached completely!

[IWillSaveOurMarr]

I so wish I could get ahold of my best friend. I need to talk. Found yet another sign of my H's infidelity just now, he spent $200 on "Sweet Delight", whatever that is I have no idea, but it sounds like a gift to me. I will have to cross check this on his actual cc statement to get more info, but I know sure as heck that I didn't get SD on July 13th! In fact, he was gone that weekend to a family wedding a few states away. Also found more evidence of spending money on others (not me), many small $12 "gifts" noted in his planner book as far as daily expenses. It makes me absolutely ill to see them, but I haven't looked into his schedule book/planner for a long time and thought I should look into it to see if there was something I needed to bring to the attention of the attorny I will be seeing tomorrow for my "lunch consult".

It's a fantastic idea from a local law group, to offer advice from an attorny for the cost of lunch, plus you also can then "shop" the attorney and see if they are what you are looking for.

*** Just talked to my H, and of course he didn't talk back, telling him I ran into the neighbors at the mall and that they think he's a schmuck.

Actually, they didn't say anything about him at all and we just waved hi. I was with Gizmo, we were just eating lunch after a night of major drinking at a friend's wedding. We had a blast, much more fun than I would have had with my H, unfortunately, because he's a snob and doesn't and can't party so he looks down on it. He would have hated the music at the party and probably everything else as well.

I kind of did the "bait and switch" as far as displacing anger went when I taunted my H (above) because really, I'm PO'd about him spending all this $ on his ex gf constantly. Either he thinks I'm stupid and WON't find all this evidence, or he wants me to find it, so thinks my mom, because he's just a mean, vindictive person. Either way, it makes me feel absolutely ill to find more evidence of his betrayals.

Aggh. At a collegues wedding again I got unsolicited divorce advice from someone that not only hasn't been through a divorce, but hasn't even been married! Duh! Then I have the husband of a close friend telling me that I should take 6 months off from dating anyone after my divorce. This is from someone who dated seriously only 1 person before getting married, and he was in his late 30's at the time, so it's not like he got hitched in his early 20's or something! I guess the same thing happens when you are pregnant or have small children, people feel like they can come up to you and bestow their brillant advice all the time, but it is not appreciated at all.

The nice thing was that I had a positive spin on the whole D thing for my other collegues, "went through a bad time for a few months cause I was going through a bad divorce, but now I'm back in the saddle again", and told them about the new office that I'm going to tomorrow morning for the first time. So I had something available to end it on a positive note, which was great. I also kind of got an open invite for a job at the wedding, so it was well worth my time there. This is ego building, but not as much as you would think because my job is always hiring because when you cut it down to brass tacks, it's a sales job, and they are always hiring sales people if they are commission only, which we kind of are. But still, it was worthwhile to go and meet and mingle with everyone that I hadn't seen in awhile. Glad to see people I haven't seen in years and years and I think the best part was that I got to dance my butt off with the best dj I've heard I think ever! The only complaint would be that he (or she) cut too much of some songs, so you only heard maybe 20/30 seconds of some songs before he melded it into a new song, but otherwise, it was a rocking evening, and I had a good time.

Got to go.