Over the Shock and GALing 6

[C-Bart]

In general, I don't feel either effeminate or weak, so the charges really come at me out of left field, adding to my general confusion. I am also now pretty happy with who I am (with the noted exception of improving the ways I deal with conflict and difficult situations - and even those are not horrible, just have room for improvement)

This is the most important part of your entire post. If you are happy with who you are who cares about the opinion of less than rational person (she is not the W you used to know right now). We all say things to hurt each other. That just seems to be the name of the game. She found a good one as it has you all wrapped around the axle. IMHO this is a loose - loose for you if you choose to pursue it any further. This is not the hill you want to die on. Keep pushing forward with your "new" way of life. She is noticing and now the ball is in her court (to use a manly expression;-))

Good luck. Keep in mind you've made it 41 years to this point so you must be doing something right.

Watching a bunch of half naked men, UFC, hugging each other is masculine? Crap there goes my man card. I better go watch a little extra ESPN.