What an a$$ your H can be. It is the same for my H too.
Weekend started out great. Was doing really well. I was focusing on DB techniques and I was having a lot of fun with my H and my friends.
It all fell apart last night. We went riding all day, we watched a rodeo, we went to the after rodeo party at the bar. I am not much of a drinker, got a bit tipsy and tired and when part of our group was heading back (we took 2 trucks) my H said he was staying and that I could go back. I said no I will stay if you are. After everyone was gone, he asked me why I was staying, I said I wanted to be with him. He called me a liar. I asked why I was one. He said you don't trust me to stay without you do you? I answered honestly and said no.
Guess I should have just lied to him because he got mad. We ended up arguing, I just kept telling him to stop, or drop it, or we'll talk about it later. He would not quit.
I left. I started walking back to the campground (it's 3 miles)!!
I called a freind, her and two other friends picked me up and drove right back to the bar!! Me and my girl friend decided to stay in the truck while the boys went in. I told them not to tell my H that I was outside. My H came out less than 10 minutes later and started in on me again. My friends got into the arguement too and it got heated all the way around for a few minutes.
I decided that I had had enough and that I did not like it that my friends had been put in this position. I started walking again. My girl friend came with me and we walked all the way back to camp. We talked a lot. I told her everything that I had been keeping quiet (because I did not want everyone to know all the horrid details of my stitch) and she could not believe what I was telling her, what I was dealing with, or that I had even given my h another chance.
It felt good to vent with my friend and tell my side of stuff and let someone know what had been happening behind my closed doors. She told me that I could talk to her anytime. That was cool.
Anyway, my H comes in to the camper later on to go to bed and acts like everything is ok. Wants to have sex, I say no. Wants to cuddle, I say no. I really did not want him touching me after the things that he said to me and some of the things that he had said in front of my friends. (He told them that he was positive that I had given a bj to another man, a mutual friend of mine and my friends) He finally passes out and I can get some sleep.
Today, Mr. Nice Guy again.
What a crock of crap that is. Does something to ruin the weekend and then acts like it didn't happen, or that it was no big deal, or that I am the one with the problem.
Serious RETHINKING going on here!!!!!!!!
(This was a long venting post. Thanks for listening though)
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
