he was back, i think

[lost-n-Iowa]

I believe most of the people on here could agree with you about not seeing the process until it finally just 'hits' them.

I am glad that you are where you are in your process right now. You have come a long way. My best to you.

Hope you get the move taken care of easily. I just moved my sister agian for the 3-4 time in 2 years. I think she has it down to a science now.

I will check in on you later.

[mdoodles]

thanks for checking on me!

the movers will be here soon, i cant believe im finally moving. i have spent the last year focusing on this house, trying to save it, trying to sell it, trying to pack it etc...

once i move, no more bill collectors looking for h! that will be nice.

told him last night that i am moving today and that he can come on the weekend to get his things.

his parents are upset that we wont be next door, i feel bad for them that they still have to look at my house everyday and know what their son did and why we arent here. oh well.

i will check in later from the new place!

[bluerain]

Yay Doodles!!! I hope that the move goes well!

How did H react when you told him about the move? Talk about movin' on!

I hope that you have lots of help, and remember, if you havent unpacked it by this time next year, you probably dont need it!

[Stronger]

Enjoy the move.

[mdoodles]

so im here, im moved! its really really nice, everything went well and im basically all unpacked! i cant stand clutter or boxes, i needed to do it all to feel settled! my son loves his room it look so so cute...

my in laws just came, my mil was crying, i felt so bad (remember, she lived next door to us)...i cried too, but i said, i didnt do this. she said, i know. i said, i waited until i was basically thrown out of my house, he left me, he left all of us...

its sad but really, im ok!!!! i teared up in the car, not because i was sad, but because i am so proud of myself. im really really proud. im rather strong and im realizing it.

now, im on to new things, a new life. im scoping out the scene and seeing who i can meet.

i loved my house but it was toxic, it really really was. i needed out and i feel so much better. totally disconnected from h and its fine. i dont even think about him much. so weird.

[bluerain]

Thats great doodles. Im impressed that you are already unpacked! Nicely done!

[K4D]

Enjoy your new life. But please don't give up on your stand. Things take time and they get really bad before they get better.

For what its worth,

Kevin

[mdoodles]

thanks guys....kevin, i understand where u are coming from, but keep in mind, my life has been in limbo for 3 years! i truly believe i have had enough!!! its time to move on.

its not say that if h showed up graveling and wanted to prove to me he can be the husband for me, that i wouldnt consider it, but it isnt happening and i done waiting!

got a copy of the letter today that my lawyer sent to his lawyer. its informing them of the new law effective sept 1 that automatically restrains assets of divorces pending. it also tells his lawyer of h's continued lack of support for myself and my son while somehow paying for his own expenses including his porsche. it informs them to expect the pendente lite.

im so proud of myself, u have no idea!

just wait to h gets wind of this and combine it with when he goes to get his things and sees i sold all of our appliances!

im glad i finally reached the point where i could proceed and protect myself without worrying about his reaction.

[bluerain]

Did you ever get your family jewelry back? I wonder if that wouldnt be in your best interest to pursue at least that immediately to make sure that he didnt pawn or sell it.

[lost-n-Iowa]

doodles...

Glad your moved, unpacked, and getting settled in. Glad to hear your son is taking the move so well too and that he likes his bedroom. That is the most important part, that he is happy with where you guys are now.