I guess it's hard not to care about the father of your son, but I'm glad that you're keeping it at a friendship stage and allowing the R between father and son to move along.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
It is good to see them getting along after a 2 and half year separation, I see the look in ex's eyes that he dotes on this kid, I am sure he is sorry for leaving it so long. Today he picked son up and took him shopping for some school shoes, in a way that was a favour for me, and I paid. My dad is going in hospital on Sunday and having an op on monday, so I am a bit strapped for time to get the shoes as me and son are also going away on vacation before school starts, I told ex about not having much time and he offered to take son shopping, we chatted on their return and ex seemed a lot more relaxed and friendly he also told me to wish my dad well. I dont know I still feel sorry for this guy for what he as done, but well cant let the feelings get in the way now can we. Son and I go away for a two week vacation for some sea, sun and sand, wow I cannot wait.
Wow! Your hols sounds awesome. Take me, take me! I am so glad you son and ex are getting on so well.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Being Me and Forward, thankyou for your replies, I am really looking forward to our holidays we love where we are going, and it is really relaxing being waited on hand and foot, lol. regarding ex I do believe I did the right thing contacting him on sons behalf, we will see how it goes, it is only early days yet and who knows when the newness as worn off, hope it keeps up though, the two guys need each other
Well things seem to be going well, although there is a pattern that I have picked up on with ex, and I would just like to put it on here for anyone interested. EX says he is pleased with his contact with son, son says he is pleased with his contact with dad, ex picks son up and takes him out for a short while 2 to 3 times a week, either on picking son up or dropping son off ex feels the need to speak to me, at first I went out and spoke to him because I think it is better for son if he sees mum and dad speaking friendly and also the fact that son was taking a substantial amount of money out to buy a tv I passed that to ex, ok I am alright with that what I find confusing is this, ex as encouraged son to take back up his rugby saying he will take him and buy boots and other accessories, but then twice when they have been out and about ex is phoning me and giving son a proper slating off, sort of moaning about son costing him money, that he says he doesnt have, so he as blown a lot of money over the time he as been gone. but they are trying to reform a relationship he should be happy, not slagging son off behind his back to me and then being nicey to his face,. I wont let this get me down and will handle it, just wondering about views. Oh and in case anyone is wondering, after the twice I went out to the car I told myself now I must keep out of the way because it isnt about me and ex it is about ex and son, so the next times I make myself unavailable ex phones up after dropping son off and chats for a good hour, mostly about son and constantly repeating himself, he has told me a little about his little new life and some hobbies hes picked up, then if he catches sight of me when I am letting son in and out of the house he calls me over to go chat at the car, what is it all about, is he pushing himself too far and trying to be friendly with me so his relationship with son will work out, I dont know what he is up to, the thing is when he chats to me here in my vicinity or when his wifey isnt about, he is just like the old ex, when he is on the phone and I can tell she is about he is completely different and speaks with an arrogant hes deciding hes boss sort of attitude, I definately see the two sides of him in these situations, he is constantly on about money and how much he is unable to spend on son and how much things cost, when I think of how much he as blown in since hes been gone and son as had none of it, it is sad. But anyways folks, suppose not to worry, so long as son is happy I am happy, as for ex suppose he will work himself out someday
back from our hols had a fantastic time, ex been talking to son on msn and also texting him whilst weve been away and is seeing him today. although ex is pleading the poverty tale to me when going on about not being able to afford things for son as he would wish, I was informed from the taxi driver that picked us up last night that ex as also been out and booked a holiday for him and wifey, this he knows as he is taking them to the airport, so yet again it is a case of dont have spare money for only child in his life that he didnt speak to for 2 and half years but is still partying and holidaying with the new love in his life, so suppose in a way ex is still lying through his teeth when it comes to son., anyways we will see how they progress
also same taxi driver informed me that he picks both of them up when they have been out drinking, and he says it isnt very rosey in that camp, also the fact that when she goes out on her own, ex texts and phones her all night long wanting to know where she is and who with, lack of trust there I feel, and also she says that when she gets in he will always cause an argument with her by asking who she as jumped in bed with whilst shes been out, wtf he never asked me things like this, I suppose it is due to the fact that she played with him whilst she and he were in relationships so maybe he thinks she will do it to him, who knows, just venting a while this morning
I am so glad you son and ex are getting on so well.