Guilt, loss of being in control, loss of cake-eating, wounded pride and arrogance. All of these are the common reasons a WAS behaves the way your H has.
I can't be sorry for someone so grossly selfish and reckless.
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he'd have to move away to his Dad's in IN or to a friend's in NC
Oh, puh-lease! We don't need him in NC! We already have one too many such lowly, self-serving waywards in this state -- namely xW's OM. Just one is one too many.