I had a hard time with this to...you have to reconcile the idea of no H in your life = no kids. They will bring you tremendous joy throughout the years and like it or not they are part of him. Logistics of who gets them when comes into play and holidays and special moments are now shared. It does break ones heart.
It isn't all about hurting him or each other but getting out of the battle whole enough for your kids who are going to need you. Don't let yourself get so caught up in right and wrong, the lies and betrayal, the pain and anger that you don't see that the children mean everything. They are everything.
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
