Are you going to see the results of the mental evaluation? Or will it just be mentioned in the trial? It is curious that the doc mentioned needing more time to go over your background info/evidence that you submitted. Im glad that you had the resources to make that happen.
Regardless of why its happening (as long as you dont let your guard down), I think that you deserve a break from the craziness and abuse of your W, so Im really glad that things are settling down.
I imagine I will be able to view the report. I've had wide latitude of access to everything in this trial thus far as I've expressed a keen understanding of the issues involved.
W is still continuing her A, although right now it is less physical than she'd want it to be I'm sure because MIL has clamped down on letting her get out of the house. I'd imagine she is waiting on the D to be final before continuing it openly which is fine.
I'm definitely not letting my guard down. The SSRI I'm on has helped me to relax a bit more, and I'm not so concerned about what does and doesn't happen as much.
Today I had D1, and went with her and the boys to the mall and ate chicken, then went and saw a couple of friends at the mall. Then took them to a book store and had fun there. I'll get her tomorrow as well which is good.
W/MIL came early today, and MIL looked more "nervous" than usual but W was quite calm and making small talk. She is being "friendly" still which is a joke in some respects because she is tearing apart our marriage, costing thousands of dollars in legal fees, etc. just because she wanted to have an A and make false accusations to cover it up.
I'm just taking these interactions for what they are... controlled and isolated... they believe they are being recorded (and they are) and are putting on a good show. This is fine.
Tomorrow is a new day and I'll see how she reacts or doesn't react. We shall see.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I could see this evaluation being sort of a stepping stone for her to get the treatment that she needs. Not her idea, so it probably wont last, and a hallmark of BPD is that as soon as they feel better they stop their drugs, another reason it may not last. But hopefully she will see that she doesnt have to live with the ups and downs.
Do you know if she is type I or II, is she rapid cycling? Or is that something that will come out in the evaluation?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
Had a busy day today. Took D1 and the boys to a park, then to McDonalds for breakfast. Afterward we went to a book store, then went grocery shopping and then back to my home. While here we cleaned, I did dishes, and then cooked chicken for dinner. Meanwhile D1 was dancing to songs on the radio and getting into things. It was a fun, busy day and I had a great time.
W/MIL came in early as usual, conversation was short, and things were pretty much done in 5 minutes. Just as well as I was paying attention to the oven.
I overlooked a letter from my attorney I had received last week, notifying me to be prepared for trial next month. Sounds like this guy is on the ball. I like it.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Thanks, bluerain, I didn't know they could treat Borderlines with meds.
DCBHM, too cute about D1 dancing. Glad you had a great day!
I'm aware of some meds they can use for Borderlines. Doesn't cure anything - but helps with impulsive behaviors, etc. in terms of regulation in combination with therapy.
Yeah it was a pretty good day. I think the worst thing about my situation at this point is the fact that W is oblivious to anything that can go wrong for her. She has a very narrow focus and expects the judge to agree with what she wants. Her lawyer doesn't seem as anxious to get to trial.
I'm still awaiting the results of her evaluation. Her attorney has been stonewalling the release of any prior psychiatric records. In the end that can't make the judge too thrilled. Especially if her current evaluation is bad for her.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Dropped off the little men early this morning so I was able to get to spend about 10-15 minutes with D1. She was more clingy this morning, getting me to hold her while she rested her mouth on my shoulder and hummed and blew spit bubbles.
When the daycare worker asked if she was ready to eat she started crying and reaching towards me. I guess she has associated breakfast with me leaving now.
I've been working on my home office, it is coming together nicely. I should be more productive.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
D1 was already in her high chair when I arrived this morning. She started crying and reaching for me... wasn't able to see her for too long. I wiped her tears with a kleenex and gave her a kiss.
I'm keeping busy lately. Working on a home office, getting things organized around the house, and otherwise staying occupied mentally and physically.
I am still awaiting the results of the psych eval. W's attorney is running silent again, and I haven't heard a peep of them wanting to do my deposition or any other discovery. Lots of smoke blowing, but they never follow through.
I think she is used to guys backing down.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I got to hold D1 for a bit this morning. She was holding her blanket and walking around. I picked her up for a bit and she hugged me, then I put her down so she could go eat a waffle.
I don't get as much time since I have to drop both of the boys off for school prior to seeing her.
Work is going well enough... big project going on. Trying to get that taken care of.
One thing I've learned, when wrapped up in a drama-filled situation like I am that is emotionally intense over child custody - DBing is futile. Maybe just because it is a personality disordered individual. But dealing with W or her family is an exercise in futility.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
