I do think it is a control issue. He has gotten to do everything he has wanted and Sue always took him back. He can treat her badly and he can still come home.
Now you are standing up for yourself and your D and he is scared. Doesn't know what he is dealing with or how to get you back under his thumb. I think it is time Sue and I for one am here for you.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory